Start the Conversation

It's important to share your concerns when a Veteran in your life seems to be experiencing mental health challenges or is in crisis. 

Family members, friends and those close to Veterans are often the first to notice signs that a Veteran is going through challenges.

When you notice changes in a Veteran's behaviors, attitudes or moods, it's a good time to offer your support. Have a conversation about your concerns, and let the Veteran know you’re there for them.

Ask Thoughtful Questions

First, focus on your own observations and share your feelings:

• “I’ve noticed you’ve been acting differently lately, and I’m wondering how you’re doing.”
• “I wanted to check in with you because you haven’t seemed like yourself recently.”
• “I’ve been worried about you lately.”

Once you’ve started the conversation, you can ask follow-up questions:

• “When did you first start feeling like this?”
• “Did something happen that made you begin to feel this way?”
• “What can I do to best support you right now?”
• “Have you thought about getting help?”

Provide Encouragement

Offer the Veteran your support and some encouraging words:

• “You’re not alone, even if you feel like you are. I’m here for you, and I want to help you in any way I can.”
• “It may not seem possible right now, but the way you’re feeling will change.”
• “I might not be able to understand exactly what you’re going through or how you feel, but I care about you and want to help.”
• “When you want to give up, or feel overwhelmed by emotion, try to just focus on getting through the next minute, hour, or day — whatever you can manage.”

Learn About the Conditions That May Be Affecting Them

It’s beneficial to learn about mental health conditions before you talk with a Veteran in your life. This knowledge can help you understand the Veteran’s experiences and the kind of care they may need. Learn about some of the mental health conditions that may affect Veterans

• Adjustment disorder
• Alcohol use disorder
• Anxiety
• Bipolar disorder
• Depression
• Effects of military sexual trauma
• Effects of traumatic brain injury
• Posttraumatic stress disorder
• Schizophrenia
• Substance use disorder

If you believe your Veteran loved one needs professional help, reach out now. Getting support or treatment as soon as possible can prevent symptoms from getting worse.

Support for Family Members and Friends

When you support a Veteran in your life, you may need tools to support yourself too — including further information about mental health conditions, coping methods and programs and services.

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